We often have expectations of how certain things should fall into place. But then life happens. Beyond our expectancy, things go wrong. They have every right to. Some question -- how to control them ? The answer - you cannot !
Does this
mean all is lost ? No hope ? Well, another ‘paradox’. When situations push you
to something, it is general human tendency to divert or channelize to something
different. We curse, we scream, we grumble, ...but then again, we change !
Well, most of the times, you must. Since long, mankind claims to control all.
But can it ? Believe it or not, it can never do so. Then what do we do ? Hmmm.
Go with the flow ? I rather say look into the positivity the situation has to
offer. We may not know all, we may not understand all, but it is imperative
that we TRY. Every situation has
something to offer, some learning which helps in shaping us up. One must
understand and recognise the signs, clues or whatever you may call it.
To abandon
a certainty can often leave us with a skeptical paradox that can be genuinely
depressing. But humans have this remarkable quality to give meaning to one and
all. Bartlett (the British Psychologist), rightly, explained in his theory of
reconstructive memory that humans have a tendency to fill in the gaps whenever
the information to a particular situation is missing. So what does this imply ?
Basically, we always try to give a closure to everything. Be it a relationship,
or an important life goal, or even as simple as having a meal. Closure is quite
important. As it gives us a sense of satisfaction, of control. But then again,
are we controlling things? No. We just learn to live with the ‘change in plan’.
The crux does
not lie in controlling the situations but rather at times, going with the flow
or accepting change.
Paradox
exist, so does life ! We think & plan things but are led to something else.
Enjoying every bit of the uncertainty, living every moment ... that is what one
should & must do because life just happens once. At times it is not about
being right or wrong, but living in the moment and doing your bit, your best. Let
us not even live with the assumption of control. But live in the uncertainty,
live beyond the Paradox.
